It’s been 11 years since I had my last pregnancy and it’s like I am back to my original physique and “near-single-life-minusboys” with of course 2 kids (a 15 and 11 years old). I am able to stay out late, do zumba, dine out with friends and the like. But things had been a bit boring sometimes. The kids had their own activities and had good time with their friends, husband busy with work and I am left alone. I am extremely in awe that Life has been so good to me and my family, blessed us abundantly. Just as things are working so well, we were given a bonus: A NEW BABY GIRL! I knew from the start that it will be a life-changing event.
Here are a few things that the family is enjoying with the arrival of our new baby:
1. FREE BABY – SITTER. Since my kids are all grown-up (a teenager and a school-age), they are able to help in taking care and baby-sitting their little sister, I still hired a nanny, though. It is an amazing sight for a mum like me seeing my kids enjoying each other’s company. It’s like they’re just playing with a little doll. They don’t see our baby as a rival anymore to their parents attention rather somebody they need to give their attention to. This fostered a sense of responsibility and commitment to each other at the same time taking the role of each one in the family at an early age.
2. A NICE FAMILY BONDING. Bonding is something that unites individuals or people, according to Webster’s dictionary. It has been somewhat our automatic reaction that right after having our dinner, we play with our little booboo, and we’re enjoying her. Times like this may also be a chance for us as parents to cultivate our friendship with them. “Give some of your leisure hours to your children; associate with them in their work and in their sports, and win their confidence. Cultivate their friendship. Let parents devote the evenings to their families. Lay off care and perplexity with the labors of the day”, The Adventist Home, pg192. This is what I call “quality time” spent well with my family.
3. ANOTHER LOVE, ANOTHER LIFE. I fell in love with her the first time I felt her inside my womb, the first time I heard her heart beat. It was a feeling that is beyond imagination, indescribable feeling that only new parents experienced. I had my ultrasound done and my husband was with me. I waited for the doctor to find her heartbeat, until…Tsug!Tsug!Tsug! A loud train-like sound was heard and the doctor confirmed it to be her heartbeat. I couldn’t help myself but smile and saw my husband teary-eyed when we heard it the first time- after 11 years! We’re like first time parents AGAIN! This experience has renewed our love for each other as couples and our commitment to take care of each other and our new baby. She is a great blessing! “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from Him”, Psalms 127:3
4. AN ASSURANCE THAT A KID IS LEFT WITH US WHEN THE OLDER KIDS ARE OUT. “Empty Nest Syndrome” is a feeling of emptiness felt by parents when the children are all grown-up and up and about with different activities outside home with their friends. This is just one of those worries that has started to creep up on us both and I think most of the parents felt. I have not prepared myself for this event to occur as I am just enjoying the company of my kids yet because we are able to do things together without being pissed. Just like birds, when it is the time for them to fly, eventually they will leave the nest and fly and do things on their own. This is the way of life. I have to accept it. But accepting it will not be as hard this time, I have another baby to stay with me. That I am thankful and grateful for.
Being a nursing mom once again after 11 years is not easy. It takes self-denial and some sacrifices, nevertheless, still extremely thankful that I was given another chance to nurture another life, a God-given life!