I made a research study about the use of Play to be able to understand the colorful world of these “little people”, our kids.
Kids also have “bad moments”. Sometimes they are fussy, in pain, uncomfortable, depressed, crying, happy, confused, and out of control, especially when they have tantrums. And when they’re in that bad moments, they are not able to convey their thoughts verbally. And more often than not, mum like me, tends to have a hard time understanding them, what they want, how they feel and things like that. We dont want to shout at our kids just so they will hear us. or probably, blow the eardrums of your kids, just because you’re already shouting at the top of your lungs, forcing them to say what they want so you will understand. Or probably end up crying because you’re disappointed that you dont seem to get the message from your daughter or your son. You probably see them playing with their toys, or destroying them, or madly scribbling something on a piece of paper. But you dont get them to talk about it, and you dont understand why they are behaving that way. Well, probably, its time for you to get up and learn the easy way to understand them: PLAY WITH THEM, HONEY!
We think our kids already aged so fast that they doesnt need to play anymore. No!
Drawing or Painting is an example of Play. We can readily draw some thoughts and emotions of our kids through carefully observing their drawings. My 9 year old daughter, Ella Sofia, used to draw a big, 2 storey-house, with a car parked outside, having a mom, dad, kuya, and herself holding each others hands, with her favorite pet “popo”. She used to show me her drawings (which are mostly a picture of a happy family), and i just had one reaction: “very good, Ella! nice drawing” — i painted a smile on my face , to show that i am so pleased with her work of art and to show my approval. I’ve been seeing drawings like that on top of the table, sometimes inserted in one of her books, and just anywhere in the house. Until one day, we went to a certain resort, and passed by a big, 2-storey house. She amazingly pointed to the big house and shouted at the top of her lungs “Wow! I want to live in a big big house like that! and I will bring our family and popo with me…someday!” and we laughed! Later did I realized, I have already seen her dreams and wishes a long time ago, but failed to understand and recognize them—through her drawings.
Play indeed is an important tool to our kids world. We are able to understand their thoughts, pains, and dreams through Play. Lest we forget, that toys are their words, and Play is their way to communicate with us!
Mums, let us not get tired of playing with our kids, even just by actively helping them with the right colors they should put on a tail of the dog, or providing them the materials or the toys they needed. We might not know it, WE ARE ALREADY GETTING INTO THE WORLD OF “LITTLE PEOPLE“, our kids!
Our kids, Our happiness! So, enjoy!
* Title of my research: Effects of Play Therapy to the Pain Management of Post Operative Pediatric Patients at ___________(a government hospital here in my place). If you’re interested with my study, please feel free to contact me, I will be pleased to be of help. Thank you!